Create a Better Life: Day 22: Content Creation: What to Do With Critics

Posted: May 4, 2015 in coaching, conferences, Speaking ministry
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createbetterI used to have a saying, those who can’t do become critics and to some degree, it’s true. There are some people who seem to exist to be negative—to bring people down and rip people apart. The best thing you can do with these people is ignore them. Since then, I’ve come to appreciate some critics. They can be a great help.

So how do you know the difference? In my faith we have two concepts that seem pretty similar but are in fact worlds apart. They are conviction and condemnation. Conviction is what happens when you see you are on a wrong path and helps you to make those course corrections that are a vital part of a healthy life. Condemnation is a different thing altogether. Condemnation says, “You’re no good and you never will be, your worthless. Occasionally condemnation will make people rise up and try to prove someone wrong, but for the most part, condemnation destroys. It makes people give up. It makes people quit.

The key to dealing with critics is to look at their motivations and knowing when to ignore. Our ideas, dreams and visions are not our children. They’re not perfect and they are usually going to need a lot of correction along the way. People who can help us to see those corrections are so vital, treasure these people and listen to them on. On the other hand, those negative people who just want to bring us down… smile and wave on your way past them. Be kind and ignore them.
A crucial question to ask yourself is, “Does this person have my best interests at heart?”

Another test as we try to discern to whom we will listen is, “Has this person been successful?” The best people to listen to are people who have been successful in the areas where you are trying to go. People who’ve made mistakes, learned from them and pushed through to succeed. People who have failed and given up will rarely give you good advice. Their point of view is skewed, thinking “If I couldn’t succeed, no one will.” Instead of listening to these people and allowing them to make you quit, bypass them, succeed and then go back and show them how it’s done.

Lastly, sometimes the hardest critic lives inside your head. If you think you’re your own worst critic, you’re probably right and that mindset will not help you. You need to start your creation, give it your best, check it over, tweak it slightly and ship it. You need to put it out there for the world to see. For all of us trying to create a better life, there will come a time when you need to ignore your inner critic, that condemning inner voice, that perfectionist monster that tells you nothing is ever good enough, and put what you’ve created out for the world to see.

Pick the critics that will help you create a better life and ignore everyone else.

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