Posts Tagged ‘speak the truth in love’


I just got done reading a very uncomfortable short story–A story about Christians interacting with people with whom they disagree. It was written from the other person’s point of view and I have to admit it got to me. It hasn’t shaken my views on right or wrong or the truth of the Word or my faith at all, but it did make me question how I express my views and my faith to those with whom I disagree. The Bible instructs us to speak the truth in love. What does that mean to you? If I want to be honest I wrestle with it. Sometimes my truth lacks love and sometimes love makes me want to sugarcoat the truth. Neither of those positions is correct. Truth without love is often mean and hurtful, a weapon. Love without truth is a lie and if it’s a lie, can it really be love.

Lord help us all to tell our stories and do our work and live our lives guided by your Spirit, mindful of where others are at and yet holding to Your truth.

God’s truth is right and perfect, it’s we who corrupt it. What does it mean to speak the truth in love?


Needless to say I’ve been reading the passages around the crucifixion and resurrection over the last few weeks. I came upon the passage where Jesus rides into Jerusalem on the colt of a Donkey (Palm Sunday) from Luke. The people are finally (if only momentarily) giving Jesus the praise He deserves. The pharisees hear their praise and are deeply offended. They tell Jesus to silence His disciples. Jesus’ reply is “if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.” I love that quote but as I started to think about it, I found myself wondering something.

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Most people in our society would have a hard time saying Christians are a quiet bunch. We’ve been quite vocal about a great many issues, usually those we have come out against. I’m not saying it’s wrong to take an unpopular position, nor am I saying it’s wrong to stand on principle. What I am questioning is do we spend as much talking about WHO we’re for as we do about what we may find ourselves against (or our issues and causes)? Do people see us as loving representatives of the One who dies to set us free or judgmental jerks who alienate them from the God who loves them.

Jesus told us people would hate us because we belong to Him. As a result, we should expect to not always be popular. If we’re unpopular because of Jesus, that’s honorable, but there is no honor in being hated because you’re a jerk.

Be vocal about Jesus, and speak the truth in love.


The Other Side of Excellence

The Other Side of Excellence


Well I was (very gently) taken to task by a dear sister on my post “The Pursuit of Excellence.” This sister is a pastor and brought up something those of us in the church have all experienced. Basically it’s when dear Aunt Erma feels the need to sing a solo in the service. She has no real singing ability but because she is a pillar of the church, no one has ever told her. This sister asked if she should make a visitor sit through that and that’s a great question.

Now if she had said should she make the congregation sit through that, my knee-jerk reaction would be “yes” because the church does not exist to make believers comfortable. But when she made it about a visitor who may or may not be a believer, my tune changed because I believe the church exists largely for the sake of those beyond it’s walls. Maybe we need to slightly revisit excellence.

I’ll use myself as an example. I LOVE to sing. I pity the person who drives my car after me if I forgot to turn the volume down because they would be in for a shock. It can get pretty loud in there. There are even times where I think I sound pretty good in my car. But that’s where it stays because I’ve been told often my singing voice is not very good.

On the other hand, I have received compliments on my speaking voice. I’m not saying that to boast because quite honestly, I don’t see it. I know it is the voice God gave me and I know He uses it, but when I hear it played back, I think it sounds really nasal and a little whiny.

It’s confusing and makes me wonder if we sound different to others than we do in our own heads. Kind of like the weird questions I ask myself, for example: We all basically agree that grass is green but what if the green I see looks like my purple to you. We’d never know the difference because we all agree that grass is green. (I told you it was weird)

What if Aunt Erma thinks she sounds great and no one has told her any different. I mean if you’ve seen the first five weeks or so of American Idol, you know there’s a lot of that going around. How do we deal with this? I think it comes back to God and trusting that He has gifted you for something specific. If the vast majority of people see my speaking voice as a gift and my singing voice as… well… not a gift, then God will probably receive more glory from my speaking than my singing and I am here to glorify God then I should probably focus on speaking unless God says different.

Don’t get me wrong, I still sing praise and I sing loud and “proud” but I do it in the midst of the congregation lifting my praise in community, to be drowned out by the better singers. I leave the solos to others.

Maybe in the church we just need to be sure to be honest. We praise people in the areas where they are gifted and encourage them to pursue that. We don’t crush their spirits, but we call out their best. We speak the truth in love and we help them to be excellent.

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